You know how sometimes you peel an orange, and all the segments come about nice and easily? I like it when that happens!
Sometimes though, two of the little segments will kind of get stuck together. And then as you try and pull them apart, the membranes separating them will rupture, and you end up with a mess of juicy little sacs and it's kind of hard to tell where one starts and the other ends - and you end up sticky and messy.
Keep that in mind, because I'm going to come back to it.
Thanksgiving was really great in the Koda household. We had a fairly large contingent of Mrs. Koda's family actually stay with us most of the week. They're great people, which is helpful when you have 14 people all sharing a home. On Thanksgiving Day, the rest of the family, with 2 unfortunate exceptions, joined us for the meal. Since I know longer pray in public, or semi-public settings, I asked my father-in-law to offer the blessing on the food.
My father-in-law is an incredible man. He's led an interesting life, and there was a time when he used to scary the living hell out of me, but underneath his rough exterior is one of the greatest men I know.
Prior to offering the blessing he shared a few thoughts. They were obviously very special to him, and as he shared them, a solemn hush fell over the room, even amongst the more rowdy of the Koda clan. There is something special about sharing events or feelings close to our heart, but that's a topic for a different day.
Due to the nature of what he shared and his feelings about those experiences, I won't be sharing them here, but he did end with an exhortation of sorts for those of the family who might have need to bring their lives in order, to take the steps necessary, because he would like to be able to spend eternity with all of us.
I'll admit that a little guilt welled up inside of me, since I no longer share some of the same beliefs he does, and I'm sure I was one of the family members to who it the challenge was directed, but then I realized that there were a number of us there to whom it was likely directed. The great thing about Mrs. Koda's family though is that when another member is perceived to be doing something other than what they should, there is very little negative talk about it, if any. It's always positive, reassuring and uplifting. I'm not sure if this ties in with the topic I had in mind today, but I wanted to share it anyway.
Moving on... Throughout the remainder of the weekend, occasionally chats were had amongst various members of the fam. Mrs. Koda's bother and his wife spent some time discussing my current standing within the LDS Church. Mrs. Koda explained that a large part of my disaffection is due to the dishonest portrayal by the organization about it's history, and the associated hypocrisy with that. Her brother responded that the Church is full of hypocrisy and that it's important to focus on the Gospel instead.
I've heard or been told that a number of times in the past few years, either the same way, or in similar terms. The trick I think is trying to separate the Church and the Gospel.
And this is where the orange analogy comes in... The membrane between those two is kinda thin and very prone to breaking. At time it almost seems that the membrane is non-existent as the two segments flow freely into each other. I actually think there may be more than just two segments though. This post, is my attempt to try and clarify those in my mind.
I think the Gospel - at least how people view it, seems to actually fall into 2 sections. There is is the traditionally accepted Christian gospel, as outlined in the New Testament and then there is the Doctrine formulated by the organization, surrounding that.
The basic gospel is basically surrounding the life of Jesus Christ. Whether that life is viewed as literal, or mythological, I think it holds a great deal of merit. It contains the essence of who we are and our relationships to others. It's the Golden Rule of Do unto others as you would have them do unto you and of neighborly love.
The doctrine is a specific organizations interpretation of that.
And then the organization can kind of be broken down into two segments. You have the general membership and you have the hierarchy.
Often the general membership is cast aside when problems are pointed out. I grew up with the mantra - The Church is true, the members are not. Church could mean any number of things, but I think in the case in which I heard it, it referred to the hierarchy and the doctrine.
I tend to think that the general membership are actually a good thing too. Generally people are good and if you combine that with the teachings of the pure and unadulterated Gospel, I think you get a win/win.
The problem is that you have a hierarchy with a specific agenda, and it's not necessarily in line with the gospel. They institute doctrine to further than agenda and try to shepherd the membership around that. That's when the membership runs into trouble, when they confuse doctrine with the gospel. The other problem is when the membership start jockeying for positions within the hierarchy. It's supposedly frowned upon by the hierarchy to do this, but yet they hold their positions up as a reward for righteous behavior, which is generally only righteous as defined by the hierarchy itself.
So where does this leave me...
I think the gospel is awesome. I appreciate the stories of Jesus as contained in the New Testament, and think you would be hard pressed to find anyone who does not agree with them being held up as a good standard for mankind to follow. With that said though, I tend to believe that the character of Jesus is merely a conglomeration of past deities and teachings, passed down through time and reinvented and the God of the New Testament. I could elaborate on this more if anyone is interested... I don't think that believe diminishes the teachings at all, just perhaps provides a different perspective, or perhaps a more accepting approach to other deities and faiths.
I think that Church membership (of any denomination) are good as well. Are we not all part of the same human family, and with that a responsibility to treat each other with respect.
My quest now becomes, how do I separate doctrine from gospel, membership from hierarchy, and is that even possibly to do?
I think if I try to accomplish this using the organizational oranges, I could well end up with sticky fingers and more than likely a squirt of juice in the eye!
Yikes! I have a lot to say on this post, but we had an AWESOME weekend, and now I am buried in the aftermath, so I'll try to make it short:
ReplyDelete1. "The Gospel" - for most mainstream Mormons, if you reject the human hierarchy that is "The Church", you of necessity reject "The Gospel," right? Because God or whoever told Joseph Smith that all the churches had gone astray and were evil, so that is why he came to restore the One True Church, correct?
I could be wrong, but it seems like the LDS tie-in of Jesus death / resurrection with The Gospel came in later, possibly as a Christian PR move ("Look! We're not a cult! We believe the same things!"). What they mean by The Gospel is really the teachings of Joseph Smith, which led to the forming of the LDS church, which led to more rules, and hierarchy, and so all that is The Gospel.
So here's my interpretation of the comment: "Don't focus on the hypocrisy of the Church" -- ignore the mistakes that the members and leaders make, because they are human... "Focus on the Gospel" -- keep believing all the doctrine and hierarchy anyway, because there are some good things in there, and it will probably all come out in the wash, right?
2. Never believe me when I say I'm going to keep it short. ; )
Interestingly, my son had almost the EXACT conversation with my husband and me this weekend... don't reject church because of the hypocrisy of a few people, etc. (yeah, rent Close Encounters. I was a child when I saw it, so I may not even remember the story line, but we had the same conversation thousands of miles apart, what if their were more people having it too? How freaky is that??? lol)
I realized it may be even harder for us, as non-Mormon Christians, to explain to our loved ones why we're disillusioned with "church." Are our human-led, hierarchial country-club-membership institutions that are focused on budgets, buildings, and butts-in-seats really what Jesus intended when he one time used the word "church" in the Bible? If not, then why in the world are we spending so much time seeking God in them? Goes even a step beyond questioning the LDS model, you know? But can cause the same hurt feelings in family members, unfortunately.
Glad you had such a great holiday... sounds like your wife's family is AWESOME.
; )
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Keeping it short - I have the same problem!!
ReplyDeleteFrom my understanding... The original premise behind the Church was very Christ centered, although it differed from mainstream Christianity in how closely it tied in with the Nicean (sp?) Creed.
At some point though in Mormon history, spreading "The Gospel" became more about, we're different and unique because... Polygamy, no coffee or alcohol, having a prophet etc., and less about Christ.
Actually when I went into the missionary training center, it kind of blew me away how much emphasis was placed on Christ's role, since it hadn't played much of a role in what I had learned growing up.
I do find it amusing though how much the LDS Church wants to separate itself from mainstream Christianity, and yet tries to play the "But we're Christians too" card. It just shows through some of the hypocrisy.
And I think you nailed it on your interpretation. For Mormons, the gospel is the doctrine, which is why I felt the need to try and split the two, since I think there is a fundamental difference. However as you raised at the end... Confusing the two for the membership likely encourages the financial donations.
For example... I would classify the Mormon belief in temples and the ceremonies performed therein as purely doctrinal, although there are concepts contained therein which might loosely be tight to the Gospel itself.
Back in the late 60's (I believe). The tithing requirement was added to the list of questions asked in order to ascertain worthiness in order to attend.
The end result is that you are now required to pay in order to receive a benefit touted as essential to "The Gospel" which is really just doctrinal.
I think we could probably also have the discussion of religion vs. spirituality, but that may be an entire discussion on it's own.
About the close encounters thing... I tend to think we're all connected somehow. I think conversations around the world about the value of religion and how it pertains to membership in the Church will continue to increase as time goes on. Whether it's spurred by exchanges such as this on the internet, or by real spiritual or intellectual connections between us probably remains to be seen - or perhaps it's really a little of both!
Thanks for the comments and good luck with the clean up!