It's About... Sex!

A week or two back, one of my favorite readers made a comment about appreciating my raw honesty on this blog. I appreciate this blog for the same reasons: It allows me to be completely honest, and through that honesty to connect with a host of people in similar circumstances and share a common journey. I could probably spend a whole blog posting, and more going on about that, but that isn't what this is about. This post is about sex!

Specifically this post is about sexual relations between 2 people.

It's about things that might not cause that relationship to be as good as it could be.

Now while I appreciate the opportunity to be honest, and obviously some of you do to, I'm not about to share the intimate details of my personal sex life. Sorry all those of you with voyeuristic fascinations!

I will say the following however...

We, as with probably any other couple have had our fair share of ups and downs. Sometimes it amazing, and sometimes it's not so amazing. Sometimes too, it feels like something might be missing too. The physical interaction is there, but it's like when you're really hungry, but you eat something, and it doesn't seem to take the hunger away.

In conversation with friends, specifically those with the same religous background as Mrs. Koda and myself, this does seem to be something which is very prevelant in Mormonism, and I would suspect many other religous faiths, especially the very fundamentalist types.

While things aren't always 100% on that front, I do actually feel better when speaking to friends, because we actually have it pretty good.

But, sometimes pretty good just doesn't cut it!

Anyway, to make a long story short, Mrs. Koda come across an article online a week or so back.

I won't rehash the whole article for you, but I will provide a brief summary.

It's about Sex, but it's about more than that. Sex is good, but by itself it lacks something. The article explains Sex and Sexuality and the difference between the two, and there is a significant difference.

Sexuality seems to be where religion likes to stick is control freakish nose in, and do serious harm to the marriage relationship.

I'll stop there and let you read the article yourselves. You may not agree with all of it, but hopefully if you've got the same or similar religious background as Mrs Koda and I, and it has impacted the intimacy of your relationships negatively, perhaps you may gain something from this as well.

Again, without sharing too many gory details... The state of marital affairs in the Koda household has been pretty damn good lately, and in contrast to the title of this post... It hasn't actually been solely about the sex!

The article actually ties Depression in with this as well, something which is a HUMONGOUS problem in Utah.

Sexual Repression and Depression in Mormon Marriages