My leaving the Church has been pretty tough on Mrs Koda. In many ways it's made our marriage stronger, but it's introduced additional stresses too.
The last few days have been extra super awesome though for reasons which I am not at liberty to discuss online - being a gentleman and all ;-)
Anyway, last night was some activity days thing at the Church... It's a thing for the younger girls, maybe 7 through 12. It was called something stupid like Pretty in Pink, and was an evening we suspected would be filled with lame games and that kind of thing.
Kiddo #2 is of the female persuasion and was excited to go.
I tried to convince her otherwise, but she wouldn't bite. In fact, after offering her and evening of food and fun if she opted not to go, she turned it on me and asked why we could have fun tonight instead.
I should have fought harder...
Mrs Koda left feeling happy and excited about life.
And returned home with all the good of the past few days completely erased.
I'm not sure I can think of an appropriate word for my feelings towards the church right now.
Ironically while watching a comedy show on TV, they depicted a scene at a Church, and I kinda miss the camaraderie of attending a church. Of course with Mormonism, so much of that is likely completely fake, but I wonder if another, less fundamentalist type organization might be able to offer something genuine and uplifting.
I know exactly what you mean. I'm divorced but Sundays were the worst in my marriage. Things were pretty good all week long and then - BAM - Church and she comes home all disappointed that I'm not the bishop. My father has related the same experience with my mom who used to be a temple worker. After those temple work days she came home grouchy and displeased with everything. I think it has to do with being too highly invested in the religiosity of family members. It's simply not enough to go, find spiritual strength and enlightenment - but why not?
ReplyDeleteThe church has definitely succeeded in completely pissing me off lately due to the fact that it's been very effective in wasting my time. I agree to attend a planning meeting or an activity and only often actually go because I gave my word rather than wanting to attend. However, more times than once, said meeting/activity is canceled and I'm always out of the loop on receiving any kind of advance notice because I don't have/use a cell phone and all of those said notices are sent out via text messages or Facebook (which I also don't use) rather than any kind of regular email.
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain. My daughter has attended the last few activity days too. I figured it wouldn't give any long-lasting brain damage. However...for reasons I can only attribute to attending those, she asked to attend church today. My wife obliged her while I attended the Church of the NFL.
ReplyDeleteAnyhow, my daughter came home and I inquired how her class was. She said it was fun. I asked what she learned. "My teacher taught us about faith. She said that if we have enough faith we can learn to fly."
What...
The...
F**k...
And people wonder why I have thrown in the towel. And yes, for all of you faithful LDS Koda followers, I do realize that the faith/fly principle is not a part of the gospel and I shouldn't hold the church accountable for the idiots is generates, yada yada yada. And save your pearls, I'm swine.
T.J.,
ReplyDeleteWhether you're interested in hearing more stupidity or just want a good laugh, you might want to read this: http://mormonmatters.org/2010/09/16/even-beyond-idle-speculation-the-worst-things-youve-ever-heard-at-church/
Okay, that was hilarious. Thanks for the link.
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